My boyfriend, now EX-boyfriend, called to let me know that this relationship just wasn't working for him. It created such a large shift in emotions for me after celebrating a day filled with gratitude and happiness with my family the day prior and now moving onto a great sense of sadness.
I cried. I laid in bed under my sheets. I let a majority of the day go by just doing nothing.
I can only imagine how many girls go through this every day of the year. But we always get through it and keep on going. With the amount of break ups I've been through, I have gotten a hang of the post breakup routine to help jump back into my life with a force like no other.
1. Take a Day
- Take a half of a day to a full day to cry, be a bum, stay under your sheets, vent to a friend, eat some ice cream and just binge watch your favorite show or movies.
- This gives you that 'mourning time' to cry it all out and let that sadness out of your whole system
- Half of a day to a full day: Keep this time frame strict - nothing more. Don't dwell on the break up for so long. The longer you dwell, the more likely you can fall into a depression or overthink as to why he ended the relationship.
2. GET OUT OF BED - GO WORKOUT - SHOWER
- The caps were necessary because this is a must do. Working out gets your blood flowing and helps release these endorphins that create a sense of positivity. Read more here.
- Do some yoga, go running, dance to your favorite playlist - Just get that body moving. All in all, you get something out of it: a boost of self esteem and a good workout
- After getting your sweat on, take a nice, steamy, hot shower or soak yourself in a bath with your favorite soap and oils - I recommend indulging in some jasmine essential oil. I keep a bottle of this in my bathroom for some sweet aromatherapy.
3. Read
- Something that always makes me feel better is reading a passage from the Bible. I can't say I have a favorite passage specifically for this, but I can say that I focus on passages that remind me of my faith in God. This helps provide a calm reminding me that all that happens, happens for a reason and that God just has and will always have my back in all that happens. Start off with Romans 8. Any recommended scriptures?
- Drink some tea while doing so - it'll help calm your mind
4. Make a List
- Take a piece of paper and start listing everything that makes you happy - from hobbies, food, outcomes - LIST IT
- Take that list and incorporate as much of your items into a daily to do list. This helps you stay focused throughout the week to keep your mind off of lingering sad thoughts.
- My list included:
- 30 min of yoga a day - health, clarity, and meditation
- Water my vegetables and flowers - brings happiness to see my plants flourishing
- Read for 30 min - 1 hr
- No fast food, only home cooked meals
The goal of this 4-point list is to keep us going - to help us maintain that positive mindset after going through a rough break up. If you go through a break up, let me know how this 4-step process helps you.
